Separation Anxiety

What a day. Sydney had a bit of a rough night with an upset belly and we were up most of the night. We mostly left her in the basinet, but tried to comfort her. Needless to say, we are quite tired today. It was so worth it to have her home though. She hasn't been herself today, but we know she is missing her brother. She keeps looking around and has seemed pretty stressed in her basinet. She is not used to having a bed all to herself.

Ethan has been distraught most of the day. His nurses agree that he seems to be missing his sister and looks upset to have been left behind. Doug visited him this afternoon while I stayed with Sydney and took a nap. He called me saying how hard it was to leave him because after 90 minutes, he still wouldn't calm down. At 7 pm I went to feed him and was surprised to notice that Doug had not exaggerated. The nurse was so excited to see me and said, "oh good...he's been wanting to see you."

He would settle down for only a few minutes and then seem to remember that he was upset and begin crying so hard. He was grabbing onto me so tight--both hands around my finger. He pinched me the whole time I was feeding him and the nurse said, "he doesn't want you to leave." That was hard to hear, and I think I cried every time the nurse walked away. Poor guy--feeling like he was left. He was sleeping when we took Sydney home last night so he is a little unsure of why he now has a small bed all to himself. My heart aches for him. He had a brady last night but he didn't require any assistance, so it doesn't 'count' against him. He recovered on his own. He also gained 51 grams last night and is now 7 lbs 2 oz (with his cast). The nurse said that twins that are separated react this way and it takes about 72 hours before they get used to being alone.